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The other day I was sitting at home in my meditative state pondering the behavior of people when speaking about their beliefs. It was through this deep thought that I came to an interesting realization about the way people do or do not accept ideas and opinions different to their own. Often times hot topics like religion, abortion, homosexuality, political views and so on become very divisive and sometimes even incite violence and aggression in people. People develop deep seeded hatred for one another not for anything that they have done to each other(Which is often nothing) but because of personal beliefs and stances on different issues.
I myself have often times been very outspoken about my ideals on all of these topics, and while I like to talk about those things it has become apparent to me that speaking my mind and speaking about my beliefs seems to anger people for no reason at all. My beliefs are not the most popular in today's world, they are mostly traditional conservative values and with them comes accountability and responsibility for ones own actions. It today's world people don't want that, they want excuses or some form of rationale for their shortcomings, wrongdoings, or otherwise immoral behavior. With that, when you tell people " I think that's people should be held accountable for themselves, and not have excuse after excuse handed to them" or " The rules are the rules, and they are meant to be followed not broken" or " Society has had it's standards in place for a reason and those standards don't need to be compromised" you face quite a bit of heat for it, but why??? What is wrong with that??? I am not forcing that situation on you, I am not saying this is what you should or have to think, I am simply stating "This is what I think and feel".
The answer to that question is what I have stumbled upon. It's what I have come to call the "Wrong" complex. It seems that by default when you tell someone what you think or feel on any given topic, something in their brains seems to trigger this feeling or perception that what is really being said is "No, you and your thought are wrong, and what I think is right" Why is this so? That part I can't quite figure out? Are different opinions so off-putting that it just incites the worst in us all??? Is hearing someone else express their personal beliefs so unnerving that we just can't help but be offended and thus unaccepting or others views? Why is it that a person can't just say how they feel without people taking offense to it. Why does this "wrong" complex seem to get in the way so much?
If you haven't noticed, go try and talk to someone with completely opposing views to your own, try to explain what you think and why you think that, and see if at any point that conversation isn't either rejected or escalated. Why does "I think this" trigger "You're trying to tell me I am wrong and you are right"? Why can't people just express themselves in a dignified manner without it meaning that you are trying to offend an entire body of people, and saying that you are either right or wrong on the situation. I like to share my feelings and beliefs, but because I believe something different than you doesn't mean that I think you are wrong, it means I just happen to think something else.
People don't seem to be able to grasp that concept due to what I have branded this "Wrong" complex. I don't really get it or understand it, but I am a constantly growing and learning individual. Maybe one day the answer will be revealed to me. Until then I just need to stay mindful of this "Complex" and remember when addressing people that not everyone takes kindly to hearing something outside of their personal comfort zone. I am not saying I am innocent of this "Wrong" complex, I have been guilty of that very thing many times in the past. It wasn't until recently that I really recognized it though, and began to understand that idea, or that that was why people often butt heads without reason when discussing virtually anything.
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Lord of the Sith
-Darth Rage
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It's all flawed. We all have everyones in our head and they're usually against us. If we're lucky 'everyone' is on our side. Anyway - it's all self-delusion.